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Some rants, raves and general annoyances
that pop up in my life. Now, pardon me while I climb up onto my soapbox...
Fashion catalogs for large size clothing that use thin models or
"plus size" models who just look like a slightly larger version of
their thin, hour-glass shaped sisters. Fat women and large size folks come in different shapes,
not everybody is an "hourglass". A size 32 "apple"
shaped woman or a size 28 pear-shaped woman is NOT going to look the
same in any particular fashion, let alone look like a size 8 does...Catalog vendors claim that "large women don't want to see the clothes on large women".
Maybe because so much of it is flat-out UGLYYYYY? They're right.....I *don't* want to see that
crap...but give me up-to-date, quality, well-made fashions and I definitely want to see them on large sizes
in some different shapes! People who are so miserable spending their lives as slaves to the rigors of trying to fit their body into the mold "society" tells them that they cannot *STAND* the fact that someone else will not do it. You know the ones I mean...they're on some ridiculous program that entails pushing themselves to limits that is unbelievably *unhealthy*, all in the quest of *health* -- (that translates into THIN for those of you who don't know) -- and are so
angry at me. They have that attitude of, "I'm going through hell to try to look like society wants me to, and YOU have the nerve to like yourself FAT"... God forbid you break it to them that some people even like you this way. I don't know who they hate more at that moment...me for clueing them in that they don't have to beat themselves up trying to be stick thin, or themselves for swallowing the whole bizarre "thin is everything"
notion. Magazines out there for "large sizes". Now, I truly
applaud them for breaking out of that "small is beautiful and size 3 is the only way to be" train of thought, but for some reason, they still seem to want to use models on the low end of the size scale
proclaiming that Size 12 can still be sexy. WHAT? SIZE 12? Apparently, they seem to forget that "large size" goes on quite a bit farther...
16... 24... 32... Don't get me wrong, I don't think that people who are in the 12 - 16 size range should be the "invisible" BBWs. What I *am* saying is that "large size" encompasses a wide range of sizes, and to stick with the smaller end of the scale confuses me a little. I kind of feel like it's okay to be "kinda" large, but not "really" large. Also, they don't seem to take into consideration that large size woman do NOT all have that "hourglass" shape they seem to insist the models have. I'd like to see apple shapes, pear shapes, etc. This way we can really see the diversity in sizes and
clothing designs. Restaurant chairs and booths and other public facilities that have seating that is sooooo small...my butt and tummy won't fit into those damn things
-- in fact, "normal sized" friends aren't even comfortable there.
If they want my money, give me a comfortable place to sit down! After all, popular thinking seems to
believe that all fat people do nothing but eat - so how come they
aren't ready for us? (major
sarcasm...) Speaking of seating...what's with these doctor's offices and health facility waiting rooms? They usually have seating that's either a sofa that's so low almost anybody (especially the elderly, who are a big chunk of the doctor's income....) that sits in it needs help getting up, or chairs with arms that very narrow or worse yet, flimsy chairs that one butt cheek barely fits on.
My husband's physician is a BIG man. I can't figure out who
made the choice for his waiting room. It's so low that I
watched people of ALL ages and sizes struggle to get out of the damn
stuff. Go figure. Besides, if they're so positive fat people are always sick, then that would mean we'd always be at the doctors, right? It sure as hell doesn't LOOK like they're EXPECTING us... Even the medical equipment (tables and even the scales...) have low weight limits... pretty bizarre for something that they're so sure fat people are going to need and use, isn't it?
(more sarcasm - especially in light of the fact that the OBESE
population is everywhere and the medical community is SURE we're
all headed their way) Turnstiles...enough said. People who look at
someone and determine...solely on their size...the state of their
"health". Big means unhealthy, "thin" means healthy.
Period. Then they launch into a "but I'm worried about your health" speech while insulting me and pushing their latest diet program on me.
I bet everybody knows someone that's "thin" yet feasts at Mickey D's
way too often to be good for the arteries, yet most think people are judge them to be "healthy" and okay
based on their "appearance"
Not!!...that thin person who you think is so healthy could be an alcoholic, have cancer, AIDS, be a psychopath, or have just about anything else
going on. Idiots
who think that their opinion of me will make me alter something about my life or my site to suit them. They go to great lengths
telling me that I'm "wrong" about my opinions and my philosophy about MY life. Usually while prefacing their "bash" by saying that they're entitled
to express their opinions. Apparently they don't understand that
their right to free speech stops at my ears. There's nothing
in the Constitution that says I have to listen to it. My God loves me, my husband loves me, my family and friends love me...whoever else does or doesn't like me or what I have to say won't change a thing about this site or my beliefs. Guys who say they like large women, but then refer to them as "fatties", and "massive mounds of flesh", "tubs of lard" and use other (in my opinion) derogatory terms, especially in conjunction to speaking of them in a sexual light. I've been around the web for
a long time, and I get turned off by web pages that tout someone
likes women "with blubber", and that "waddle",
blah blah blah. As far as I'm concerned, this is not the least bit flattering
(and isn't likely to get 'cha laid BTW). Perhaps because I've heard those terms used in such derogatory ways all my life by people who despised me, I can't quite understand why someone who supposedly finds large
women (or men) to be physically attractive would use them. It makes me feel like a freak
who is okay as long as I'm fulfilling some deep dark fantasy. Making
the generalization that "big women know better how to please a man"
isn't particularly flattering either. I find myself wondering, "now,
why exactly would that be?" Is it an insinuation that because I'm
big, I can't get a man any other way, so I'd learned to be a wild
woman in bed. What an insulting frame of mind. As a woman who has a
generally high self-esteem, this attitude makes me what to slap
these guys along side the head! (BTW, I happen to believe that being
a "wild women" in bed happens when you make a connection with a very
special person and the sparks can really fly!) While we're at it...I'm NOT a fetish. I am someone who has a different body type than society says is acceptable and/or attractive...PERIOD. A fetish is something that people want to hide in the dark...I refuse to let anybody hide me in the dark. If you aren't proud to be around me....then *don't* be around me. Believe me, it's no loss on my
part. I'm not here to decorate anybody's world. The term "overweight"...over WHO'S weight?...that
freakin' Metropolitan Life Insurance Company thing that's as old as
the hills? The fact that some large people still struggling with their self esteem attempt to nurture it at the expense of other large people. You know that ones I mean...they can be found laughing and pointing and saying, "God, I'm big...but at least I'm not *THAT* big". Old Abe Lincoln knew what he was talking about when he said that a house divided could not stand. If we insult and degrade each other, who will stand up for us? Who should we even *expect* to stand up for us if we act this way? WE must stand up for us...across ALL size ranges of "large", or we will lose the chance of gaining respect from anyone else. Lack of
attractive "super-sizes" in
fashions. Come on folks. There's money to be made out there -- and
from a population that's getting larger all the time according to
the media and health organizations. Like us or not, we WILL
buy clothes and we most CERTAINLY would buy attractive stylish ones!
Cha-ching!!! Women's magazines that blare out
the latest DIET fad and then have the picture of a luscious dessert
right underneath on the cover. Hypocrits. Restroom
stalls that are so small you can't get the door open to get out of
the stupid thing without straddling the toilet or standing on the
seat. Why can't they make the doors open out or something? And
by the way, MANY folks have this complaint, not just "big" ones. Amusement parks rides that
don't give you some way to determine if you will fit on the ride
before you get to boarding time. How
about a sign that lets you know the clearance to the bar, or safety
device you will need to fit behind? Maybe a sample car at the
beginning of the line to try out as a "test fit". There's
nothing more frustrating than standing in line for two hours for a
ride only to find disappointment that you can't fit. And it isn't only fat folks who find
themselves in this situation. If they can post signs for height
requirements, why can't they have a sample seat or car out front for
everyone to determine if they fit? |
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